Overview

In the recent mind coaching session with Sarah, Dibya shared his concerns around career direction and personal fulfillment, prompting a detailed assessment of his professional aspirations and underlying beliefs. The assessment revealed a secure mindset in some areas, but also identified internal schemas such as self-doubt, fear of failure, and over-responsibility. Sarah and Dibya explored his coping tendencies, particularly how he often avoids taking risks or advocating for his ideas due to past workplace experiences. Dibya reflected on early conditioning where striving for perfection was expected, and mistakes were discouraged. These experiences have contributed to a current reluctance to seek opportunities or initiate career changes unless absolutely necessary. Feelings of guilt and inadequacy were noted when thinking about asserting his goals. Sarah encouraged Dibya to visualize successful outcomes and to reflect on the positive impacts of voicing his needs. Toward the session's end, homework was assigned for Dibya to document situations where he hesitated to speak up at work, what he truly wanted in those moments, and how he felt emotionally, paving the way for deeper work in future sessions.

Notes

🧠 Career Assessment and Discussion (05:19 - 15:59)

Dibya expresses uncertainty about his current career path
Sarah discusses assessment outcomes: secure mindset in some areas, three schemas identified
Schemas identified: self-doubt, fear of failure, over-responsibility

🔎 Exploring Coping Mechanisms (16:01 - 22:41)

Discussion on coping styles: avoidance, hesitation, overthinking
Dibya often avoids career risks due to fear of rejection
Exploration of workplace behavior and decision-making under pressure

👶 Early Conditioning and Beliefs (22:42 - 31:09)

Dibya recalls childhood pressure to meet high expectations
Parents emphasized achievement and discouraged mistakes
Discussion on how this shaped career indecision and fear of failure

🔁 Current Behavior Patterns (31:10 - 40:14)

Dibya avoids initiating discussions about his professional needs
Consequences of not advocating for career progression discussed
Guilt and self-blame explored when reflecting on past missed opportunities

💬 Communication and Goal Expression (40:14 - 48:21)

Sarah encourages Dibya to visualize positive outcomes when sharing goals
Discussion on self-expectations and external validation
Guilt linked to seeking help or expressing needs unpacked

📝 Homework and Future Focus (48:21 - 58:10)

Sarah assigns homework: track moments where Dibya hesitated to express his career goals
Explore avoidance patterns and understand emotional triggers
Future sessions to focus on building confidence and goal-oriented thinking

Action items

Dibya
Note down situations where he was unable to express career needs (54:07)
Write down what he really wanted in those situations (54:54)
Note down emotions or feelings that came up in those moments (55:58)